The Story of Everyone and Nobody

One day Sally Everyone, Joe Anyone, Sam Nobody and Kathy Somebody were assigned group members for the science fair. At first Everyone was ambitious to start working. But as the weeks went by Everyone started showing up late, thinking Nobody would care. Eventually Everyone assumed that if Anyone didn't do their part Somebody would eventually do it. 

So when the day of the science fair came and Everyone looked at Somebody to see if Anybody did the project. But it turned out that while Everyone though Someone would be the one to do the project, in reality it was Nobody the one that finished the project.

Sometimes we need to stop relaying on other people to do what we know we should do before it comes to bite us.

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Say Cheese!!

It seems like every time I go outside no one is smiling. Everyone always has a serious look on their face. Why is that? Is it because you're in a hurry? Perhaps you're mad or irritated. But 97% of the times, if you sit and just observe people go about their day they always have a long face. No one smiles, ESPECIALLY in NYC. If you even smile at someone on the train or bus they might think you're crazy! Why is that? Are we crazy for being happy? Or are we crazy to actually show some type of emotion? I know mornings aren't the best time of day for some people but why frown? Smile!
I want everyone to try this, smile to at least one person per day. Brighten up someones day with a hello, or a good morning. Get out of the ordinary. 'Cuz you never know who might be falling in love with you're smile ;-)

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Coming Soon

Hey guys so i know I've totally stopped blogging for like a week and I feel so bad. But the good news is I will be able to produce more blogs, more often & more efficiently. I'm currently moving back to my home town of NYC =) and they aren't going to install my Internet for a while. So bare with me guys. better content coming soon =D

Love is Fire

Love is like fire that burns for all to see, 

So let that fire consume your life and burn for all to see

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Girl V Boy

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The Absent Husband

           Married three years, dated seven and here I am, with a two-year old child and one on the way. I thought I knew him, I've known him for so long. When we dated he listened, he understood, he gave me his shoulder to cry on. Now... well now its the opposite, he never listens, he doesn't understand and he's the one that makes me cry. When we decided to get married everyone was happy for us. Even a year into marriage he was that kind gentle person I fell in love with, that guy that came home with flowers on a regular Wednesday afternoon, the guy that helped cook, watched T.V. with, laughed with, loved with. But now he's different. Even our friends and family see it. Ever since Kristy was born it's like he doesn't even want to be around me. Sure he works and provides for us but he's never around. He acts like Kristy is a chore, like he can leave and attend her later. He complains about everything. How nasty changing a diaper is, how dirty the house gets, how dinner isn't always done. If he was home more often maybe I could get some help with Kristy so that I could cook and clean. But all he wants to do is be away from me. He's always with his friends, planning activities, going out. Where did that warm heartfelt person I feel in love with go? It's like everyday we fight, everyday we argue but its not like we're dating, we're married and have children. I've gotten to a point where I'm just depressed all the time, I hardly go out, I always have to attend to Kristy by myself plus I'm expecting, its like .... it's like I'm a single parent but with the extra baggage of an non-supportive husband and I don't know what to do.

It's very difficult to get married with a person you thought was going to be the perfect husband and eventually the perfect father and then realized that he didn't live up to your expectations. That he changed, all you guys do is argue. But it's even worse when you have children. Every time you argue, it's the child that is directly affected. Children always sense when things are wrong, they get tense, scared and worried. Many scenarios go through their minds about situations they can't yet comprehend. But here's a reality check....When you got married and thought you were marring the perfect person, that was your biggest mistake, because you have to remember NO MAN is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, even you. When both of you got married you both had expectations for the other person.   This idea that either of you were perfect was an absolute let down that can cause many doubts in one another. Counseling provides you with someone out of your immediate circle to give advise and help guide your marriage from an outside perspective. It is always good to seek counseling no matter how small an issue maybe. Because without counseling a little problem left without being addressed can soon become a great dilemma. It's very hard to admit that you may  have let your husband down, sometimes its even more difficult for a man to admit his wrongs. But if he tries to make things better, don't shut him down, its his way to say "I'm sorry." Today might be a simple gesture or action and then may come the actual words "I'm sorry." If you feel like he leaves you home all day long to attend the children bring up the issue of possible day care or babysitting. A few hours outside the house would do you great and something as little as that can help your marriage greatly. Just remember to stop suppressing  your feelings to see if your spouse can tell that your unhappy. Speak up, say what you need and what you want. Because if your stubborn what you might just get is a divorce over a situation that could have been prevented.

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PARTY ROCKERS

I think everyone just LOVES the weekends. No work, no school, hardly no responsibilities. Just you the t.v. and all the junk food you can eat. Or at least that's how it was. But now more than ever it seems like "Friday's" has become the symbolism for party time. All you hear at work, school, and especially on Facebook is "can't wait for Friday to DRINK... Can't wait to go clubbing or Can't wait to get it in." Clubs are said to be places where you go to "have fun," "relax" and "meet new people"..... Fun & relaxing? Really? With all the publicity clubs have gotten, all we have seen is the exact opposite of fun and relaxing.  Lets get REAL, what happens in clubs? You spend all your money on booze, sweat, and half the time get in confrontations 'cuz people act stupid when they drink. What is so fun and relaxing about that? At the end of the day you're broke, with a headache, and no memory of what you did. Yet that's "so EPIC?" Posting up pictures on Facebook of your tits about to hang out, your buddy chugging a whole bottle and you passed out in the corner and underneath all the photos are comments saying"OMG ya didn't invite me" or "Damn that looks like a good time." Maybe its just me but, Whats so appealing about being sloppy and looking skanky? 

In clubs girls always get harassed by men, you're in a crowded area, the music is so loud  you can't hold a conversation and women ask why they can't find a decent man. What type of man are you looking for that holds value and still goes clubbing? Where he's probably grinding on a girl, getting various numbers or just making out on the dance floor. And not to mention you provoking the HELL out of them with dresses and shorts border line showing your asses. And wondering why you always get the bad guys. How you dress and how you display your self is exactly how you're going to be treated.

Now I'm not saying partying is bad, I'm just saying THERE IS NO NEED TO PARTY EVERY WEEKEND. There is no need to get wasted Friday, Saturday and Sunday, there is no reason not to remember what you did or didn't do, and there is no need to spend $200 a night on going to the club. The weekends should be about relaxing, having fun, doing things you cant do on the weekdays. Waking up late, going shopping, or going to the park. How many people have lived in a town or city and haven't been to a landmark? And I'm guilty on this too. Living in NYC I've only been to the the statue of Liberty once, to central park twice and the never to the Empire State Building. Now this is just my opinion, but wouldn't it be better to actually DO SOMETHING fun on the weekend besides clubbing? Since we have already established how non relaxing and how non fun a club can be? What's your opinion? is it just me? Am I the ONLY person that feels this way?