The Damage Is Done

Last Kiss

            We've all gone through break-ups and make-ups. Times where you argue with your boy/girlfriend yet know everything will be fine...... Except this time it was different. This time you have that feeling in the pit of your stomach. That feeling of knowing somethings gonna happen. You start to tear up but he/she reassures you that everything's fine. You toss and turn all night. Days pass and you don't get a phone call, not even a text.... Before, every morning you'd wake up to a "good morning sweetheart" text, or a "Can't wait to see you today."  Now ..... well, now all you get are voice mail's and brief hi's and bye's. Everything's different, nothing is like it was. And then one day he/she tells you those four words you've been dreading... "We need to talk." Your stomach sinks, your heart beat races, and every memory you've had together runs through your mind. Your eyes water up but you hold back the tears  ......... It's over.
           Since that day, everything's gray. Nothing has color, and nothing makes sense. Three years together and just minutes to end it. You begin to run through every memory to see what happened. How did it come to this? Was it sudden, or was there signs? Could you have prevented this? So many questions, but no answers to fill them. Crying yourself to sleep is the norm and every sad song  you own is on replay.... Those types of songs that can describe what you're feeling at that exact moment. Those types of songs that makes you want to rip your heart straight out of your chest to stop all the pain. Yea.... We've all been through that. The depression stage. Where everything reminds you of him/her. Where we talk to his/her friends to see what he/she's up to, how he/she's been, and if he/she's moved on. No matter how much we try to stay away, there's always that one photo we refuse to throw away. You never thought that the last kiss would be THE last kiss. The last of them all. The would of, could of , should of scenarios run through your brain.... but its too late. It's more than over, its finished.
         Months pass and eventually that wound begins to heal. No more crying yourself to sleep and no more urgency to hear his voice. That deep rooted wound is now just a mere scar being healed. Your days now have some colors and your playlist doesn't consist of any songs that remind you of Love. You feel like you have moved on, you feel accomplished. Three months of healing and you feel you deserve a reward, a night out, a day to restore your social life. All your friends miss you, all your friends are excited for tonight. And right when your laughing your heart away at something that just happened, you open your eyes &look to the distance... Your heart stops ....It's him. Yes, it's him, you remember his face, his eyes, and whats more astonishing is that and he's staring right back at you with eyes of joy.... You both smile and look away. Your day just became gloomy yet still with color. It's raining, but not over you, you're crying, but your happy........ You just began to live. 

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I Define Me.. and i wouldn't wanna be anybody else.

           It seems like everyday someone is complaining about how they look, whether they're too short, too tall, too fat or too skinny. Everyone is always finding "deformities" with their own bodies. But where are we getting these ideas? who's judging? and whats the rubric? Better yet, who is anyone to tell you how you NEED to look?

           Beauty has no definition and beauty cannot be measured. YOU and only you are the only person that defines beauty in your life. Whether you be short, skinny, fat or tall, you were born that way for a reason, and God made you in his image, he made you perfect as can be. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise or make you doubt it. For the person that lives to plant that seed of doubt in your mind pours out evil from under their skin. Embrace yourself. Love yourself. But better yet, enjoy your life! We don't live forever!  No need to say that we all can't be immortals like "The Cullen's," forever frozen at a certain age. We are what we are, and I'm pretty glad to be a human. Love your flaws and love your body.Who is anyone to judge you, stop trying to be somebody else, just be beautiful you!

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Men Will Never Win.

Girls, take it easy!

Now I think it's good to say that everyone knows how territorial women can get when it comes to other females interacting with their men. And for the most part, we blame everything on our boyfriends. We ask them a billion and one questions on why they were even talking to her in the first place. Take a chill pill women! Why so much jealousy? You can't expect your boyfriend to never talk to any other female besides you. Be realistic. Just like you have your male friends that are JUST FRIENDS, your boyfriend can have girls that are JUST FRIENDS. Don't be so controlling. Unless that is, you want to lose him? Now I'm not saying that every girl is worth trusting. 'Cuz you never know a girls true intentions when it comes to men. But let him breathe! If he bumps into a girl he knows, don't make a scene, don't ruin your day, if anything show her how good he treats you. Don't throw a fit for something as little as saying "hi" to someone, 'cuz God knows how many guys you talk to on the daily basis that your boyfriend don't know. Be fair.

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Twilight Fantasy

Excuses Excuses Excuses!

Top ten excuses women use to stay in dysfunctional relationships

"He Loves me"

"He says he's going to change"

"We have kids together"

"...That was before, he's different now"

"Yea we argue, but what relationship doesn't?"

"He only hit me once, he was drunk, he didn't know what he was doing"

"He would never lie to me"

"He cheated on me before, but he's 100% committed now"

"Nobody knows him like me, he's just going through a difficult time"

"I Love Him"

There is no excuse for anyone to feel the need to stay in a dysfunctional relationship. Love does not cause harm, love is not jealousy and certainly love is NOT abuse. Denial is not the answer. The fact is if a relationship is not working out then its time to go separate ways. Don't hold on to false illusions. You should be number one in a mans life. If you feel neglected, abused and hurt, leave him! So many women stay in relationships because they think they're in love, but in fact they are blinded by lies. With excuses that eventually he'll change, that he's trying. The truth is that no matter how hard you try to change someone, the other person has to give forth effort. And if a man really loved you , you wouldn't have to force him to change, he would change because he loves you and wants to make you happy. Take control of your relationship TODAY. Its either make it or break it, it's been too long to give third and forth opportunities. Along will come a man that will really value you, and who knows, maybe it will be the same man you left that really self evaluated his life without you and decided to change.

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Messy Purse?

Have you ever been checking out and started taking everything out of your purse because you couldn’t find something? How embarrassing! Statistics show that girls usually stuff their purses with nonessential items, bringing along so many “just in case” products. But it’s time for everyone to empty out and clean out their purses! And I’ve listed four easy steps to help you get started.

Step 1: EMPTY OUT YOUR PURSE

There is no reason for anyone to have so many things in their purse. Once you get home from work, empty out your bag. You have no idea how many things we accumulate in our bag that wasn’t there when we took it to work. Items such as receipts, extra napkins, lose change, etc. You might think “a few receipts is nothing,” but what happens the next day? We wake up, and take the same bag, without emptying it. This goes on for days, weeks and maybe months until slowly we have stuffed our bags to the max. This is why it is crucial to empty out our purses every day.

Step 2: TRAVEL LIGHT

Many times before heading out the door we stuff our bags with so many things we hardly ever use. Plan ahead and be smart! Check out your local drugstore’s travel section. There are tons of stuff there *in travel size* that sell for only $1 that we can use.

Also, step two applies to your make-up bag!

Girls, ya know ya are guilty of carry your whole inventory in your purses. Travel light! Only carry up to 4 make up products. This will reduce your make up bag tremendously, and not to mention lets you find what you’re looking for fast!

Step 3: STAY AWAY FROM BIG BAGS

Unless we are going to the beach, we shouldn’t carry big bags on the daily bases. When we carry huge bags we tend to forget step two, which is to travel light. We see such a big bag and so little inside that we just stuff it. If you can find a smaller purse to bring, bring it!

And lastly Step 4:

Rock the day with no worries of being unable to find what you need!

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Inspirational Quotes

"Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning"

 -Psalms 30 : 5

"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies"

-Proverbs 31:10-11

"Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth"

-1 John 3: 18

Quote for the day

I Want The Best For You

At times when we enter relationships we don't care what anyone says about who we're with. But why would you have that attitude if there's nothing wrong with the person you're dating? One of the main people that we display a big "MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS" sign is to our family. Our friends are usually the main source we seek approval when it comes to dating. We ask our friends what they think about 'em before we date 'em....And you see, there's the number one problem! Our friends will 90% of the time agree and encourage us to do whatever we want. If we want a tattoo, if we want a piercing, if we want to date. Friends are the main source we discuss these things with. Friends are there to encourage you. They are your public cheerleaders. To them it makes no difference who you date as long as "you're happy." But what do they know about happiness? A teacher being absence makes them happy,  a seat on the bus makes 'em happy. Yes, it’s good to seek approval from your friends but don't let them influence you into dating anyone. 

           

You see, one of the main people we should discuss this issue is with our family. Let it be a sister or a brother if you don't feel like talking to your parents. But THEY should be your number one cheerleaders when it comes to dating. Your family is the ONLY people that want the best for you. And especially your parents. Your mom and dad want someone perfect for you, not just any guy/girl, and especially not a bad one. To your friends, dating a bad guy would be the topic of the century, "ya will make the cuties couple!" is probably what they'll say, disregarding the guy's true intentions or his attitude, or lack of respect, to them it just matters if they're hot. We'll let me you something, you shouldn't be in a relationship just for their appearance. You should want to form a relationship with someone that respects you, that shares your same moral beliefs, someone that honor YOUR parents and listen to their words. Because a guy/girl that disrespects your parents is not a guy/girl worth dating, and furthermore will disrespect you down the line. Not only does that make that person dishonest but untrustworthy.

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Quotes for the day

"If your relationship started with a lie, it will end in one too" 

"Don't give someone a glimpse of hope when you know there is no future"

     

"Why should I be good in the kitchen when you're no good in bed!"

"You are my flower and I am your sun"

Oh No She Didn't!

Girls usually have the reputation of being mean, and a bit snobby to other girls. In my opinion I say girls are just naturally competitive when it comes to “beauty”. Just like men are competitive with sports, women are competitive with everything else. Girls want to feel like they are “hotter” than anyone else they come across. When a beautiful girl walks right past us we’ll say things like “She’s’ not THAT pretty,” “What a slut,” or “Her teeth are BUSTED!”

But why are we like this? Well, one main underlining issue is that in the privacy of our own home, we don’t even think were as beautiful as we portray ourselves in public. Before the day is over we probably say at least 4 things about our bodies we hate. With more reason, when we think we’re not even pretty how can we admit someone is prettier than us?

            I say enough with that. If a prettier girl comes and sits next to you, instead of making negative comments, why don’t you ask her where she got her dress, or how she did her hair or what she does to stay so slim. Don’t continue to be mean. If mean is what you give out, mean is what you will receive back. And here’s a little nudge in the right direction, 1. Next time you stand in front of a mirror say TWO things you like about yourself every morning and every night. 2. Compliment someone every day. Start off with your mom or sister, and then escalate to your friends and co-workers. 3. BE CONFIDENT! Remember, no matter what you say about yourselves right now, you are beautiful! Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, beauty cannot be measured. Stop comparing yourselves with photos of celebrities! Did you know that EVERY photo you see in a magazine of celebrities is PHOTOSHOPPED? They even HIDE when they don’t have make up. Just remember that when you begin to compare yourselves to someone. And remember, Your Beautiful.

Baby Please Don't Go

            I learned various life lessons along the years. One in particular I cannot stress enough is that, no matter how much your partner may love you, or feel about you, if you don’t have the same feelings, don’t be in the relationship for the other person. You should be in a relationship because YOU want to. You should be happy in a relationship and not feel guilty because you don’t love them. Follow your heart. Don’t give that person a glimpse of hope when you know there is no future. And even when your relationship started great, if you feel as if your love for someone has come to a sudden stop, it’s better to bring up the issue and not ignore it. It is better to be truthful and just say “hey, the fire inside of me has gone out” maybe you just need to address an issue with them to rekindle a relationship. And if you feel you want out in a relationship, do not feel bad for saying so, it’s your happiness that’s at stake too! Yes you may have shattered his/her feelings, but wouldn’t you rather be with someone that YOU really love? Someone that YOU feel just as passionate about? Relationships aren’t easy; and at times very sticky. Don’t give someone a chance you know very well won’t lead to anything in the future. As I have learned, you will too. You will hurt them MORE than what you think your helping being in a false relationship. Remember, be in a relationship because YOU want to, not because your pressured, not because your force and not to seek refuge, but because you love and are loved back. When it comes to love, there is NO second guessing, it’s either he’s it or he’s not.

The Intro

            Love (or what we think is love) is an inevitable feeling we all experience at one time or another. That excitement we get when we first look at each other or kiss is exhilarating. But that feeling we get isn’t love. Love goes much deeper than a rapid heartbeat. Love is kind, never envious, love is strength, never weakness, love is nothing without respect. Sometimes we question where our relationship will lead when there’s no love. If you’ve ever asked yourself whether or not there’s love in your relationship, then look no further. This blog is for you. This blog is for everyone who has ever cared for anyone. Here I will give you advice on what’s love and what isn’t. Advice on what to look out for and what to throw away. There’s no sugar coding in this blog! It’s either he’s into you or not, and if he’s not, then don’t worry, there’s always “pick me up” quotes to get a smile on that face. No one should ever cry for a rejected love, there’s enough fish in the sea for you not to get down for one lost cause.